How has the phrase "What Goes on in this House, Stays in this House" harmed the Black Family?

That phrase is literally the creator of “silent cry for help!” This creates the lack of awareness of needing professional help, makes you want to solve your problems YOURSELF (creating self harm). IF 50% of the kids that were told this phrase were actually able to TALK, we’d be a much better person. I believe not only for “strong black women” but more of our men probably wouldn’t be locked up, wouldn’t be ashamed to seek help & us women & men would truly understand EARLY in life that it’s OK to NOT BE OK!